How Do I Make a Fair Parenting Plan for Thanksgiving?

November 16, 2018

If this is your first Thanksgiving since your divorce, you are probably wondering how to create a fair parenting plan. Your children may want to spend time with both sides of the family. Given that this is the beginning of the holiday season, you could make sure that you are creating a plan that is fair and takes the best interest of the children into consideration.

Common Ways that Families Divide and Share Parenting Time

  • Alternate holidays on odd and even years. For example, one parent might have the children for Thanksgiving on odd years and Christmas on even years, while the other parent would have the children for Thanksgiving on even years and Christmas on odd years.
  • If location is not much of an issue, you might consider splitting the holidays down the middle. Many families do this already, since there are often several stops to make to visit family during the holidays. The child can spend the first part of a holiday with one parent and the second half with another. However, make sure you plan ahead to make this transition smooth – you don’t want the kids to be stuck in a car all day.
  • What’s better than having one Thanksgiving? Having two! You don’t have to celebrate the holiday on the day that it falls on a calendar. Your children can spend Thanksgiving with one parent on the day of, and with the other parent on the day after.
  • Assign fixed holidays. For some families, it makes more sense to have holidays work the same way every year. Some parents may have different holidays that are important to them.

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How to Develop a Parenting Plan After Divorce

May 14, 2018

After a divorce, there are many things that you will have to deal with within your family. It can be a stressful and emotional time, especially if you and your former spouse have disagreements about your futures. Having children between you and your ex can further complicate post-divorce plans, but there are ways to stay ahead of the game. A parenting plan is something that you and your ex must make in order to make your divorce easier for your children.

What Should Be Included in My Parenting Plan?

– Parenting principles/behavior: This section is important but often overlooked, because your behavior after a divorce is extremely important for your kids, but can be seen as unimportant in relation to other things. Decide with your ex-spouse what kinds of arguments or discussion will be hidden from your kids, or what kinds of social behaviors should not happen around your kids (such as illegal drug use, parties, etc.). Any methods of communication should be finalized in this section as well.
– Visitation schedule: This will outline when your children will spend time with the non-custodial parent. Many visitation schedules will have the children spend every other weekend with the other parent, but you should work out what’s best for both parents.
– Visitation exchanges: This includes details on how, when and where your children will be dropped off or picked up for visitation. This is important especially if there is timing and location conflict between the two parents.
– Vacation schedule: Where will your children be spending birthdays and major holidays? Knowing the details of these arrangements will save you and your ex-partner some trouble and stress around the holiday season.
– Child support: The finer details of child support will be included in your child support order, but it’s still a good idea to address certain issues concerning the support of each child. The more details the better in order to avoid confusion, so lay out the general facts relating to child support in your parenting plan.
– Records access: Both parents should have equal access to any school records and school activities. Any medical records should also be equally shared but ensure that both of you have equal authority on any emergency medical decisions.
– Medical and educational expenses: Which parent will be responsible for health insurance for each child, how will uncovered medical expenses be paid, and how will private tuition or college expenses be handled? Make sure these details are answered in your parenting plan.
– Relocation: Lastly, ensure how visitation for your children will be handled if one or both parents moves away, and figure out who will pay for travel expenses for long-distance visits.

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